I am happy to announce I officially have the majority of wedding planning done! One question I keep getting is- “Is wedding planning hard?” Fortunately for me, it has not been hard. One of the things that has factored in to that is the decision to not have a wedding party. We will not be having traditional bridesmaids and groomsmen. Instead, my fiancé and I will have our siblings standing next to us.
My fiancé and I chose to not have a traditional wedding party for a few reasons. One of the reasons is simply that it is logistically challenging. Almost everyone we would have asked to be in the wedding party live out of state. While we could have still asked them they would not have been able to be very involved.
Another reason is that it saves money for everyone involved. We save money by not paying for dresses, suits, hair, makeup, and gifts. And they also save a lot of money. Everyone (with the exception of 4 people) invited to the wedding are traveling from out of state. I didn’t want to ask anyone to pay for any additional expenses for the wedding since they are already paying for travel expenses.
By not having a wedding party, we are choosing to have a low-key wedding day. I for one, want to savor every moment of the wedding day. I do not thrive in chaos. The last thing I want is to have a ton of people getting ready in a small room. I want to have time to go on one last date with my fiancé in the morning (we plan to get breakfast together on the wedding day). I want to take my time getting ready and not worry about running behind with hair and makeup.
Lastly, by not having a traditional wedding party we are eliminating some aspects of planning. I really did not have to chose colors for our wedding. I know that might sound strange to have a color scheme for the wedding but the main reason you choose a color scheme is for bridesmaid dresses. I plan to buy gifts for everyone involved in the wedding and I don’t have to worry about buying gifts for an entire wedding party.